When folks talk of holiday stress, finding the right gift for people can be pretty high up there. Nothing too personal for coworkers. Nothing too weird for a gift exchange at work. Something meaningful for family. Something extravagant but not too extravagant for your mother who never buys herself anything nicer than a Starbucks hot chocolate. Something romantic for your partner/spouse. Something more significant than another plastic toy for your kids.
I have a few strategies for gift-finding, all focused on who the gift is for.
Matt makes it easy on me. He drops hints all year long and has an Amazon wish list. I use the following formula: a cookbook I know he’d enjoy that just came out, something he hinted at for awhile, something non-expensive that I know he’d enjoy (copy of a movie he enjoyed, a silly joke book, more Sharpies for marking things in the kitchen), something boring like underwear or socks (because the man will not buy them himself), and fill in with things from his wish list. And, other years, this whole thing goes out the window because he wants something expensive so he gets that big thing and a handful of things just barely bigger than stocking stuffers.
For My Brother and Sister-in-Law
They also have Amazon wish lists. I’ll admit I really don’t know that they’re into enough to stray much on anything expensive that’s not on their list. This year, they got a big, shared gift and I’v also sent a box of stocking stuffer-type things. I make sure to give or send foods I know they like, fancy versions of food I guess they may like (like a really nice tea), something smelly like candles for my SIL, and something fun they can keep on their desk as work (though I totally forgot that this year).
My In-Laws and Mom (aka Easy to Buy For)
Okay, they’re easy. My MIL loves just about anything someone gets for her, especially earrings that, in her words, look like something a cat would want to play with. We see my in-laws often so we just buy them something they hinted at or we think they’d enjoy. Same for my mom, she gives me a few ideas but really enjoys anything you get for her. I try for more impractical for her, in particular, because she is so-very-practical in her normal life. Forces her to live a little and let me spoil her.
My Dad (aka Hard to Buy For)
My dad is a tough cookie. He likes anything you give him, sure, but he’s not really a stuff person. Ask him what he wants and he’ll always say world peace. So, accordingly, I usually give him something that he’ll use up (like a book he’ll read) and make a donation to a cause he supports. (But no more Red Cross – they got hit by two Cat 5 hurricanes that year. I know, correlation is not causation but I felt really, really guilty.) This year, I went in a different direction but I don’t want to spoil it in case he comes and reads this. Sorry, Dad, you’re getting stuff.
If you have a hard-to-buy-for, you can take a few routes that I’ve considered:
- Make a donation to a cause they support
- Buy an experience (concert tickets, sports car rental, etc)
- Buy a piece of art (watercolor of favorite animal or Fat Head of favorite sports star)
- Spend a day with them, doing whatever they want (like go fly fishing with your best bud because he’d always wanted you to try it)
Gift-giving at work is hard. There’s usually corporate and/or government regulations about that sort of thing. If you do give something, make something like cookies that’s generic and won’t just sit on a shelf for the next few years. And only give to the couple folks you work with everyday or you’ll go broke. Give your boss a card and leave it at that – no one wants to explain to HR that they really weren’t trying to buy a good annual review, ‘ya know?
Don’t be lame. Unless it’s formally designated as a White Elephant – aka bring in random stuff you already have or got at a yard sale – don’t bring in something like that because you’ll be The Jerk. Buy with a recipient in mind, like a coffee lover or folks with a small child. Don’t get politically gifts. (Okay, there’s a story here. A very Republican coworker once wound up with a bottle opener that looked like and talked like Bill Clinton when you used it. She was PISSED.) Oh, and don’t be a dork and go way outside of the set dollar limit, if there is one.
How do you find gifts for people? Any tips for finding the right gift? Want to share a funny story of a gift gone wrong?
Coming tomorrow…Christmas lights