Staying Sane During Surgery Recovery

I won’t lie, surgery recovery is hard. You suddenly can’t do the things you used to be able to do, your body feels like it belongs to someone else, you have medication changes to keep track of, and you have lots of time to fill. You will find yourself feeling defeated, annoyed, lonely, and a million other things as you wait to get back to normal (or what now counts as your normal). How do you maintain sanity during this time? Here’s what I’ve learned the last few weeks.

Disclaimers: I had a right colectomy which was laparoscopic and had no complications, so many of these tips are focused  on recovery from that kind of surgery. More importantly, I’m not a medical professional (not even close), just a fellow patient. Your care team can guide you in whether something on this list is appropriate for your recovery.

Before Your Surgery

  • Ask your surgeon and/or GI doc any questions you have: Some are obvious – how long will I be in the hospital? How long until I can go back to work? What are potential complications? You probably have a pre-op appointment shortly before your surgery and this is the time to ask anything that pops into your head. They’ve probably been asked all sorts of questions before, especially if the patient hadn’t had surgery before. Be sure to ask what you do if, on the day of your surgery, you have to cancel for illness or weather.
  • Figure out when you’ll get back to work: You may able to telecommute, work part-time in the office, work fewer hours at first, or make some other special arrangement. Reach our to your boss or HR to find out your company’s policies. Because of the nature of my job, I can’t work from home so this meant I did zero work until my doctor cleared me to go back in person. I also chose not to go back until I could work full time, but that was dictated by it being the holiday season rather than corporate policy or how I was feeling.
  • Plan for who will help you at home: This isn’t just to ensure you have help taking care of yourself, but also help doing the things you normally do. Household chores. Paying bills. Taking care of children and/or pets. Figure out who will do what so you need not worry about it once you’re home. (And, for really critical things, try to find a backup.)
  • Ask for in-person visits or remote ones (audio or video): Friends and family may assume that you just want to be left alone or that you don’t want to be seen in your condition. If you do want to be visited in the hospital, say so. If you want to chat with someone on the phone, call them (or text first, if you’re me). I was lucky that Matt was able to spend one entire day with me plus some shorter visits here and there, but I also reached out to my parents and a good friend/neighbor during the times he had to be home to take care of Lizzie or work or, you know, get an actual decent night of sleep in his own bed.
  • Pack a bag with what you’ll need while there: I did this in a backpack to make it easier for Matt to transport it around until I had a room. I threw in things I needed to entertain myself, a robe, several changes of comfy and stretchy clothes, phone charger, headphones, toothpaste and toothbrush, lotion, and chap stick. I also made sure I had my insurance card and government-issued ID in an easily accessible pocket to make registration easier.
  • Follow all instructions you’re given by your doctor and/or hospital: Whatever the staff tells you to do – or not do – in the days before your surgery, do it. I had to shower using a special soap and go without makeup, lotion, and lip balm and had to only take a sub-set of my usual medication.
  • Find something to amuse yourself in the hospital that’s low-key: You’ll want something that doesn’t require a ton of thought or energy but can keep you amused. Television, audiobooks, crossword puzzles (easy ones), and coloring are great ideas. For me, this was mostly watching hours of HGTV on the hospital television. We don’t get the channel at home, so this was a treat for me. I also did a bit of knitting, though it often wore me out very quickly. I brought a journal and books with me, both of which remained in my backpack for the length of my stay.
  • Bring along a robe and your own undies: You can certainly get another robe to cover your backside and get some of those super-sexy disposable undies, but you’ll feel that much more human if you have your own. You may or may not be able to put on your own clothes during your stay, so be sure to ask before you change into yoga pants and a t-shirt. I was simple too sore to put on normal clothes and, due to the location of my incisions, it would have been very difficult to get through wound checks had I not been in a robe.

In the Hospital

  • If you need something, don’t be afraid to ask for it: Weather you’re in pain, need help going to the bathroom, or need another glass of ice water, don’t be afraid to ask for it from the staff. They’re there to help you and you’re not being a bother. Mind you, don’t abuse this ability by asking for something every hour as you’re not the only patient, but the staff would much rather you ask then try to do something yourself that could lead to a fall or similar.
  • Take those walks: For abdominal surgery, the protocol at my hospital was to get up and walk around (with assistance) as soon as possible post-surgery. This meant stumbling along with a walker and trailing nurse in the PACU then walking with a supportive IV pole and tech…and, eventually, walking by myself for loops around the unit. It will be difficult, but it’s amazing how much better you’ll feel after you do it. Again, ask for help if you need it. I needed help every time I got up from my med – though I did my best to spend most of the day in a chair  – and needed help walking the first few times. I stuck to walking around my unit but you may be able to walk to another part of the hospital.
  • Remember the names of your care team members: Many hospitals ask you to complete a survey or have some sort of an employee recognition program. If you have a particularly great (or poor) experience with a member of your team, make sure you note their name down somewhere to make completing those easier. I was lucky to have a great team which included a nurse who stayed with me for a full hour after I had a panic attack, a tech who sang showtunes to distract me from a 3 am blood draw, and a pair of residents who were extremely understanding of my, er, lack of pleasant demeaner during 5 am rounds.

After You’re Home

  • Keep up with medication schedules and other instructions: If there’s something you were told to do in your discharge instructions, do it. I know, sounds obvious but I feel the need to say it directly. If you have to do multiple things throughout the day, you may want to draft up a little schedule for yourself. I had one pain killer every 6 hours, one every 8, and my normal meds to worry about. A written schedule and alarms on my phone were the only reason I could keep track of it all.
  • Don’t do anything on your no-no list: Don’t take a bath or lift heavy objects or whatever your discharge instructions tell you not to do. It will be hard, as you’ll have to ask for more help than you’re probably used to having. Your hospital will have ensured you have that help at home before they let you go, so take advantage of it. Call or text or holler across the house if you need someone to do something for you.
  • Don’t worry that you’re not getting things done: I am not someone who is good at being non-productive so I had to learn that recovery from surgery is getting something done. The dishes and laundry and paying bills are not your responsibility but whoever is there (or can come over) to help you. Throw away your to do list, if you have to. Focus on relaxing and recovering.
  • Continue to keep yourself amused: I started by watching TV almost all day and doing a bit of journaling from my couch. After a few days, I felt well enough to sit at the dinning room table and browse the internet for a good portion of the day.
  • Reach out to friends: Just like when you were in the hospital, you’ll probably have to reach out to folks to get together or chat on the phone. I’ll be honest, I got sick of only being around and talking to family  after awhile. I made a lunch date with a friend, went and hung out at my local yarn store, and chatted online with a friend I hadn’t talked to in years.
  • Slowly get back to normal: As you feel better, don’t rush to get back into your normal routine. Add back in chores one at a time, starting with things like putting away clean silver wear or getting the mail. Yes, that’s the level of energy I had when I first got home. I didn’t empty the dishwasher until a full week after I was home, it took too much energy (and bending over wasn’t much fun, either). If you start to do something and it’s too much, STOP.

Anyone else have any tips for surviving surgery recovery with you sanity intact? Share them in the comments.

 

 

One Little Word 2019: Present

I’m participating in Ali Edwards’s online course for One Little Word again this year. If you’re not familiar with the concept, I won’t try to paraphrase Ali but point you over to her page about OLW. My words in previous years were WORTHY (2013), ENJOY (2015), and CONNECT (2016). I’ve never been great about completing the course or, if I’m honest, even keeping my word at the front of my mind all year.

My word this year: PRESENT

Materials for the Year

Most folks who participate do so as a scrapbooking exercise, using Ali’s recommended materials, both digital (included in the class) and physical (not included in the class). I tried the scrapbook approach before but it just didn’t work out well for me. I worried too much about it being pretty enough. I’m using a Leuchttrum 1917 dot grid notebook and am going to try to keep things very straight-forward and simple. Couple pens or markers. Some washi. Maybe a sticker or two.

January Exercise

This January, like in previous years, Ali encouraged participants to respond to a series of short prompts/journaling exercises. I’ve included copies of my responses, below. You can see how minimal I’m trying to go with this, a plain Sharpie pen and some fun washi to mark the edge of the page that starts the month.

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I’ll share more about my OLW journey next month with how January went and my responses to the February exercise. If you’re also in the class, look for me in the Facebook group and say hello.

WIP Wednesday: 26 December 2018

Welcome to the very last WIP Wednesday of 2018! I did some finishing, some knitting, and some frogging this week. Lots can get done when you’re off work and don’t have many errands nor chores to get done.

Finished – Dotted Rays

Lizzie claimed the Dotted Rays as her own so I finished it up – with about 50% not yet used – and gave it to her.  Mind you, she’s not actually worn it yet. Oh, 5 year-olds! (Ravelry project page is here)

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Finished – Sockhead Slouch

When I was making this hat, I had no idea who it would be for. Then, it came to me, our amazing mail carrier! She’s always careful to take all of my (many) letters and the occasional bill and is never bothered by a little snow or a cluttered front step. (Ravelry page is here)

 

Frogged – Adventurer Cowl

I decided that this did need to get frogged to I could re-start it with fewer stitches. I also decided I wouldn’t re-start it right away but wait until I was in more of a mood to knit a lace cowl. Maybe this Spring?

New Start and Finish – Knots Coming Untied

This project started out as a Tied Knots hat for Matt out of Berroco Ultra Wool DK. After completing the first cabled chart, I had him try it on. While it does fit, it’s rather snug. Thought about it for awhile and decided to go a different direction. The new recipient is one of the neighbor kids and I didn’t do more cables but followed (very roughly) the Saku pattern for the remainder of the hat. (Project page is here.)

 

New Start – Tale as Old as Time

This project is more inspired by than closely following the pattern I’m using. I just sort of picked up needles and started on it, only to realize after that I have a pattern for exactly what I’m trying to make (a long, stockinette tube to be turned into a cowl). Too lazy to re-start, I’m going to keep going and hope I can make sense of how to finish it when the time comes. I’m going to work on this here and there as the mood strikes. More photos will come once something exciting happens with it. Otherwise, it’ll just get added to my WIP report the weeks I work on it. (Project page is here.)

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New Start – Cradle Me

A few months ago, I bought this yarn (Socks That Rock BFL) from someone’s destash on Instagram. The color is beautiful and the hand so lovely, I had to use it for a special project. I decided to use it to make a blanket. This is one of those knits that will find a recipient when it’s complete. I’m just happy to knit with this yarn. No photo for now as I’ve only done a few rows of the garter stitch border. (Project page is here.)

What’s in your WIP pile this week?

WIP (Bag) Wednesday: 19 December 2018

One of my goals for 2018 is to keep my WIPs to such a limited number that they’ll fit in the custom Fringe Supply bag I picked up at my LYS (fibre space) back in November. Well, we won’t count sweaters as the bag can hold a sweater WIP only without anything in there, but we all know I only knit one of those a year, anyway. And, well, my current WIPs don’t entirely fit.

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So, let’s see what I’ve got in there this week…

Adventurer Cowl

I had this queued as soon as I saw it pop up on my Instagram feed. I’m using two colors of Miss Babs 2-Ply (Orchid is the purple and Threshold is the green) and Hedgehog Fibers Twist Sock in Concrete. I’ve done one repeat thus far, all done on Monday as I watched too many episodes of The Ranch in a row. I put it aside as I’m trying to decide if I want to pull out my progress and do one or two repeats less. It’s quite wide and I’m worried it won’t be very long with the amount of yarn I have left (about 450 yards). The pattern does have some fiddly rows though, so I’m putting it aside to really think through what I want to do with it.

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Sock Yarn Scraps Blanket

This project will pop its head in every now and then. That large ball of yarn represents all of the leftover sock yarn that’s less than ~100 yards per color. I’m making simple mitered squares which expand to be 100 stitches wide and 8″ or so square. This one is square 5. Think I’ll try to use this as my default running-errands project as it’s quite small to haul around. Well, it would be if I hadn’t decided this morning to roll all of that yarn into a single ball for the mere purpose of seeing how large it would get.

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Sockhead Slouch Hat

I made a ton of these over the summer. Yes, summer. This one is in Socks That Rock Heavyweight in the colorway Royal. I’ve just gotten past the ribbing so have a good 5″ or so still to go before the crown decreases. I get a few rows done on this here and there, mostly right after I climb into bed. I’m hoping to finish before the New Year.

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Dotted Rays (Mine! All Mine!)

As I’ve probably shared on here before, I can work with most wools but can’t stand to have any of them against my neck or arms. This means any projects I actually want to keep for myself have to be made in acrylic or cotton. This is yet another Dotted Rays shawl, but being done in Lion Brand Mandala in the Unicorn colorway so I can keep it for myself. Nice and subtle to throw on my shoulders when I’m chilly at work or wear with a black t-shirt and jeans on the weekend. If I had to guess (too sore to stand up at the moment to get the scale), I’d say it’s about 25% complete at this point. I really want to get this done before the New Year so I an wear it when I go back to work.

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Anastasia Socks

I had every intention of keeping these for myself, then I finished the entire first sock and realized that it was too large. So, I put out a call for recipients and my friend said they’d fit her sister perfectly. Excellent. I actually lost this WIP for a few weeks, hiding in my office here at the house. I’ll pick these up and make some progress whenever I feel like working on socks again which could be a little while.

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What are you all working on lately? Rushing to finish holiday knits or knitting what you please, like me?

Weeks in Review: August 19 – September 1, 2018

I thought about writing a weekly post last Sunday, but just wasn’t feeling it. But, I’m back and have a quick summary for ya’ll.

Life of Lizzie

The big excitement for Lizzie was starting Pre-K. She’s at the same school she’s been in since she was just a few weeks old, but she’s now one of the Big Kids. The class is much structured than her preschool class was and she’s all about structure. She wasn’t exactly cooperative with first day pictures, but this one turned out cute and very Lizzie.

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She also had her hair cut the week before last. It’d been since May that she had it cut and her hair grows so fast it meant getting 3″ off.

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She’s also had lots of fun playing outside with her buddy from next door. They’re not longer in the same class at school so we’re making sure they still get to hang out plenty after school or on the weekends.

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On the Needles

There were quite a few days in which I had no ability to knit due to humidity. I did, though, manage to complete two hats and and almostttt done with a shawl. The first hat is a simple 1×1 rib hat in Socks That Rock Lightweight in the Islands in the Stream.

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The second hat was in the same yarn but uses a modified version of the Wurm pattern. I’ll post an FO photo of it later, as I have yet to take one and the light is being weird right now.

I’m very close to finishing Lizzie’s Dotted Rays shawl from Kelborne Woolens Mojave. I decided against the stripes so pulled out the few rows of gray I’d done and re-started in a color blocked fashion. All that’s left is to cast off on this, so FO photo will come later this week.

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Fabric Stabbing

I did quite a lot of cross stitch this week, so much so that I only have a few colors left on my mandala. Of course, I didn’t start in the very center of the fabric so I’ll have to move it multiple times to finish it up. The pattern is called Spectral Mandala from thewordinstitches on Etsy. I, obviously, did not use the colors of the original but whatever I could find on hand. I think I’m going to do a much smaller piece next, though I don’t have any specific plans.

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Discoveries

  • Starbucks inside our local Target is very quiet on a Saturday morning
  • Mission BBQ is pretty decent, even eaten cold
  • The steamed crabs place near my in-law’s has some of the best crabs I’ve ever had and were quite easy to eat

Better Me

I’ve gotten my appetite back and have had to work really hard to not eat every single thing I see. I blame the Prednisone, though I’ve stepped down my dose quite a bit. I’ve felt mostly good, with a few meh days here and there. No pain, though!

On the mental health side, I’ve decided to get back into daily journaling, in sort of a bullet journaling style. I feel like I have so much I want to remember, both things I need to accomplish and things I don’t want to forget happening. I may show off some of my prettier pages in the near future.

On Tap

  • Celebrating my birthday with my family
  • Lots of work-related expectations/due dates to meet (though we’re really winning people over to our approach, which is a win to me!)
  • Finishing Lizzie’s shawl
  • New shawl project, maybe? Or socks?
  • Potentially finishing the cross stitch

Week in Review: August 12-18, 2018

This week flew by, yet also managed to crawl along. Matt was on call (ugh) and I had a few bad days and a bunch of good days in there, too. Let’s get started.

Life of Lizzie

Poor kid didn’t get to go to the pool until Saturday, as it was too hot or I wasn’t feeling well enough to take her or Matt got paged or…something. We went last night, right after dinner and enjoyed the empty pool and lack of direct sunlight.

She went back to the eye doctor for one of her regular appointments and her eyes are really not working together, markedly so from her last visit. This means it’s back to patching her eye, an hour each weekday. Thankfully, I never tossed out the old box of patches AND she’s finally old enough to realize we’re not torturing her, by trying to help her. Patching her right after school has been the ticket.

All week, she’s brought up things she’s looking forward to, over and over. My birthday trip to Florida. Going to Italy. Halloween. Her birthday party – to which she has said she only wants girls there and it’s going to be My Little Pony themed. Asking when it’s going to snow and if she has to go to school when it snows. Guess she’s tired of summer?

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(Sporting some shades I got her from the Target dollar area…and a ton of dirt from playing outside.)

On the Needles

I started and got a little bit into another Sockhead Hat for my neighbor in Socks That Rock Lightweight in Island in the Sky. This was my at-work project all week, though you can see how busy my week was by how little I got done on it.

I pulled out the progress I had made – little as it was – on the dark purple shawl and started it again as another Riparian Entertainment, one of my favorite lacy cowls. I brought it in to show it to the recipient, a coworker, and she loved it.

Not much progress, overall, as it’s been quite humid and I haven’t felt like knitting other than here and there. And the knitting is all away at the moment, so no pretty yarny photos this week.

Fabric Stabbing

After months away from it, I started back on cross stitch project. It’s great for when it’s too humid to knit. I played around with a few things, but eventually settled on this rainbow mandala I had previously started. If I can get it done in time, this will be part of the goodbye gift to Lizzie’s preschool teacher; Lizzie’s been under her care since she was a year old, so it’s a big deal. (I also got her a pound of excellent coffee because, well, she’s had to deal my kid for 3+ years.)

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Discoveries

Brazilian steakhouses are pretty good, even if you’re like me and don’t eat a ton of meat at a time. I went with friends on Friday night and really enjoyed myself. If it wasn’t the same price for just the salad bar and the salad bar plus all-you-can-eat-meat, I would have been very happy with only the salad bar. (Yay for DC Metropolitan Area Restaurant Week!) Also, need to remember they have free valet at that particular location so there’s no need to pay $5 to park in the garage down the street.

The Cara app for tracking symptoms, sleep, food, medication, and a bunch of other things. It helps you to figure out what may be causing your issues or, at least, what may be related. I came across it on a blog about Crohn’s and it’s been very helpful. It’s free, too.

The Great Interior Design Challenge on Netflix. Competition show out of the UK that’s just what it sounds like. Everyone’s pleasant, the settings are lovely, and the designs are varied and fun.

Oye. Ugh. Sigh.

Humidity. Crazy-high humidity. How did I ever survive, growing up in South Florida?

Inability to sleep on steroids which I fully expected but is not my most favorite thing to deal with.

Finding out the medication my doctor had prescribed was extremely expensive. Lots of fretting lead to my deciding to get it, anyway. I was in so dang much pain that day, my cheapness lost out. (I was saved by his having a stock of samples of an alternative for me to try and an odd lack of traffic – at 4 pm! – to get back over there after having already left the area to get the meds from a pharmacy by my house.)

A Better Me

I had a pretty good week, health-wise. I saw my primary care doctor on Monday for a quick chat. His first words to me: “You got our call about the CT results? Kinda scary, huh? But we’ve got this.” Saw my GI doctor on Tuesday, the day I was the worst pain all week. I’ve stepped down my Prednisone dose and added an antibiotic and anti-inflammatory to the mix. I was also given pain meds, should I need them. Looking at the Cara app – I had 3 bad days, 3 good days, and 1 OK day. And that’s judging them relative to feeling totally normal, so quite a lot better than the week prior, where I went from feeling like death to feeling like maybe I was actually already dead. Or..something.

On Tap

  • Back to GI doc to see how the meds helped and figure out when I’ll start more specific testing to see the severity of what’s going on
  • Finishing that hat? Or maybe a shawl? Or the mandala?

 

Empty Notebook Challenge

I talked for awhile at the DC Pen show with two ladies I know via an online fountain pen group. Part of our conversation was about how much we all love buying new notebooks but have yet to fill more than one or two of them. We either wait until something important/special enough comes to mind (because a notebook is too nice to waste) or fill a few pages, buy a new notebook, and give up on the old one.

As I was driving home, I realized that I should start a challenge to get us all our of our non-notebook-finishing ways. And, as usual, I turned to Natalie Goldberg. In Writing Down the Bones, she encourages readers to fill a notebook a month. Not fill it with artful prose or beautiful poetry, just fill it.

So, that’s the challenge. Thirty days, one notebook, fill it up. My friends and I started this on Sunday, so our last day is the US Labor Day, September 3. But feel free to join us and start whenever. (If you’re really into it, tag social media posts about your progress with #emptynotebookchallenge.)

Not sure what to write? I brainstormed and looked around for others’ recommendations about how to fill a notebook, start a journaling practice, and outline that novel that’s been bouncing around in your head for years.

  • See my posts referencing Ms. Goldberg, as she’s my main source. And read her books, especially Writing Down the Bones. Your local library is bound to have a copy or two.
  • Teach yourself Spencerian handwriting or brush lettering or to draw botanical drawings. You’ll use up lots of pages when you’re learning something new!
  • Every day before you go to sleep write clear your mind by writing about your worries, problems and good things that happened during the day. Not only will it make you sleep better you’ll be surprised how focused you’ll be in the morning! (From 10 Ways to Use a Blank Notebook)
  • Lots of great tips on Creating a Daily Journaling Practice
  • Start a bullet journal (Tiny Ray of Sunshine has a great summary printable and her posts are extremely inspirational)
  • Write your personal history (Text My Journal has a list of 50 questions)
  • Why you should write your novel on paper (Jenny Bravo Books)
  • Keep a commonplace book (See what someone else keeps and theirs here)

I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes about writing:

“Keep a notebook. Travel with it, eat with it, sleep with it. Slap into it every stray thought that flutters up in your brain. Cheap paper is less perishable than gray matter, and lead pencil markings endure longer than memory.” — Jack London